Networking for the Networking-Averse: Transforming Dread into Opportunity

Taylor Rodriguez
Published Mar 4, 2025


Networking. The word alone can evoke images of awkward mixers, forced smiles, and the daunting task of making small talk with complete strangers. But what if we told you that networking doesn't have to be a Herculean effort, especially for those who shy away from traditional networking events? 

According to international coach and development career expert Simone Anzböck, reassessing our approach to networking can open the door to meaningful connections and opportunities, even for the most introverted among us.

The "Liking Gap": A Reason for Optimism

During a recent Devex Career event, Anzböck shed light on a phenomenon known as the "liking gap" — the discrepancy between how much we think people like us and how much they actually do upon first meeting. 

Many of us underestimate our likeability, a perception gap that can hinder our networking efforts. Anzböck's advice? "Assume that people like you" and push past self-doubt. It turns out, more people appreciate our outreach and attempts at conversation than we might think.

Align Activities with Networking Goals

Rather than viewing networking as a separate, sometimes uncomfortable task, Anzböck encourages us to integrate it into activities we already enjoy. This could involve attending a webinar on a topic you're passionate about, joining professional groups that align with your interests, or volunteering for causes that matter to you. 

By engaging in meaningful activities, not only do you expand your network naturally, but you also build connections based on shared interests and goals.

The Power of Weaker Ties

It's a common belief that our strongest relationships are our most significant assets when it comes to networking. However, Anzböck challenges this notion by highlighting the underestimated value of weaker ties. These are the acquaintances or the "friends of friends" with whom we interact less frequently. 

Research supports this concept, revealing that weak ties are more likely to introduce us to new opportunities and information than our close-knit circle. Thus, nurturing these connections can unexpectedly lead to job leads and fresh insights.

Taking the First Step

So, how do we apply these insights to overcome our networking aversion? Start small and simple. Reach out to an acquaintance with a thoughtful message, attend an event on a subject you're passionate about, or contribute to a discussion in a professional online forum. 

Networking doesn’t have to be overwhelming — reframing it as an extension of activities you already find rewarding can make all the difference.

Remember, networking is a skill, and like any skill, it improves with practice. By shifting our mindset and strategies, we can transform networking from a dreaded obligation into a source of surprising and enriching opportunities.

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